“Why Do I Do The Things I Hate” by K. Bryan Kelso LMFT
This book is an attempt to demystify the “dilemma” expressed by Saint Paul in the 7th chapter of Romans: “Why do I do the things I hate”? Puzzled by this as a human being for most of my life, I convey my disordered past of relational failures due to this confusion, and inability to find healing in many expressions of Christianity. By use of tools found in the Church, my struggle to a deeper conversion to Christ motivated by this dilemma, and my work as a psychotherapist helping others with this dilemma, have enabled me to understand and articulate many of the roots of this dilemma.
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Daily Mass with Word on Fire (3/30/2020)
Many today are troubled with the habit of accusing oneself for bad things that one has done in the past, or having desires in one's heart to do “disordered things”. The video below is a Homily from Word on Fire mass on “the woman caught in adultery,” delivered on 3/30/20. It's a brilliant articulation on the disordered practice of accusing others. I would add one simple application to the end of the amazing homily: We accuse others primarily out of our habit to accuse ourselves! We often foolishly believe, "if I am hard on myself, I will get better": This is a deception of the Evil One! Beg for the Grace to apply this homily and choose what God so wishes to give us as a result of our sin instead of our habitual self accusal... His gift of mercy!